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You might recognise the situation: you’re giving some input in a training or a meeting. You can see a mixed response. Some heads nodding, but others frowning, looking as if they want to burn down your ideas. I know I’m sensitive to negative feedback. To avoid the pain I tend to externalise blame. It must be someone else’s fault. This natural reaction is usually not the best ground for learning and development.
So whenever I get negative feedback I’ve started to…Continue
As a leader I often find myself caught between a desire to be caring for those who I am leading and a desire to challenge them. I want to be loving and accepting (invitation), yet at the same time push them out of their comfort zone and encourage them to new frontiers (challenge).
I have come to realise that my personality, shaped by my past experiences, gives me a natural preference for one. I now know my primary tendency, so I have to put extra intentional effort into the other.…Continue
2014 was the hardest and darkest year in my life. Christmas 2013 I was diagnosed with burn-out. I had to stop work completely. This was incredibly difficult. I was so used to being busy, to have my head filled with stuff, to carrying on. I have always done so much in my own strength, relying on my own insight. But this proved unsustainable.
People around me challenged me to rest. The Holy Spirit confirmed this.The passage from Isaiah 30:15 has become very important to…Continue
Change is all about planning and action – or so we think. I’m learning that it is much deeper than that. For me it is about repentance – but not the superficial repentance of my youth where I simply confessed, but left sins and patterns unchanged. I am beginning to understand that repentance is a process involving observing, reflecting, discussing, planning, being accountable and acting.
I find the following model  really helpful (Based on Marc 1:15 and Luke…Continue